How to Leave an Abusive Relationship
Friday, November 28, 2008 6:26Before discussing the ways to leave an abusive relationship, let us first discuss what exactly an abusive relationship is. Abusive relationship is a relationship in which one partner is abused by the other partner mentally or physically.
The process of leaving an abusive relationship is not a very easy task. It involves many problems and difficulties. Here we will discuss some ways of leaving an abusive relationship.
1. Be very sure of your safety
While leaving an abusive relationship you should be very sure about your safety. Your safety is top priority. Violence is never acceptable and if you have started excusing any violence towards you then your self esteem has really taken a battering. You need to get out because it is dangerous.
2. Take the help of a trustworthy friend
If you want to escape from an abusive relationship then consult a trustworthy friend or family member. Make sure the person you choose will not tell your abuser about your plans to leave. Ask that friend to help you out from your problem by providing you all necessary items needed for your escape.
3. Be financially strong
Carry enough cash with you to last you for at least two or three months. Money is very important if you are planning your escape. It would help in supporting you while you search for a job. You can easily find a place to stay if you have enough cash with you.
4. Carry all the essential things
Carry all essential items, but do not take anything that will be noticed as missing. Take Contact information for a local domestic violence shelter, prescribed medications, legal documents for you and your children, photographs or written evidence of the abuse, financial records and account numbers, personal belongings possessing sentimental value, Clothing and things of personal needs. Be sure to have all these things while planning your escape.
5. Arrange for a new lodging
Finding a new place to live is also an important step. You must make sure you can afford this new place on your own and you want to make sure that you like the school system if you have children. Do not give your partner this address before you move, wait until things calm down before giving out your address.
6. Arrange for all necessary things
Before planning to move out you should make an arrangement for all the necessary things. A plan that safely removes yourself and you children from the home, transportation for yourself, children and belongings, a safe place to stay, how to manage being gone from home for an extended time and referral to a lawyer or legal advocate to obtain a personal protection order, temporary child custody order, etc.
These are few essentials things that you need to keep in mind while leaving an abusive relationship.